When you hear the words patriarch or matriarch, what comes to mind? Old? Powerful? Influential? Those are things we often associate with these terms. By definition a patriarch or matriarch is the man or woman who is the oldest in a family or tribe, and possesses considerable influence and power because of their wisdom and longevity. Some patriarchs and matriarchs rule their families like tyrants. They have a firm grip and tight control, sometimes empowered by a strong financial position.

When I think of a patriarch or a matriarch who reflect God’s purpose, I think of those who hold a place of honor. In a word, they are venerable—revered. They hold that place, not only because they are the oldest members of the family, but because they have shown themselves deserving of such respect and honor. This is what grandfathers are to be—patriarchs. It is what grandmothers are to be—matriarchs.

What does it look like to be a patriarch or a matriarch? Let me share with you two stories, one this week and one next week, that will illustrate what I believe Scripture teaches us about these honored positions in our family. Let’s start with matriarch and my own Aunt Thelma who recently died at 95 years of age.

Aunt Thelma was a quiet, diminutive woman, not even five feet tall. Her own children described her as patient and unflappable. She had a kindly smile, and never knew a stranger. Yet, this tiny woman possessed and demonstrated great strength of character and wholehearted dedication to her Lord. Her greatest longing and joy was to know that her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren would know Christ and walk in the truth. Nothing else compared to this desire.

Her patient demeanor and consistent prayers lifted her to a place of honor and devotion by her family. Living much of her life as the wife of a military man requiring numerous changes of location for the family, her children noted that she never complained, never pouted and was never intimidated by these challenges. She remained steadfast, positive and confident in her Lord in every circumstance.

Diminutive in stature—yes! Powerful in her influence and trust in Christ—undeniable! Aunt Thelma was truly a matriarch who influenced family through a legacy that outlived her and will continue to outlive her for generations to come. And the good news is that her legacy is a legacy that matters and has been lived to the glory of God. Her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren do rise up and called her blessed.

Share your stories of matriarchs you know that have made a difference in your life or the lives of others. We need to honor these servants of God and encourage those matriarchs who may be wondering whether they are making a difference.

GRANDPAUSE: Even when I am old and gray, do not forsake me, my God, till I declare your power to the next generation, your mighty acts to all who are to come. Psalm 71:18